(One of our favorite pictures from our wedding, thank you Cheryl Amati Martin, I still look at these pictures on a monthly basis! Check out her site, she does some awesome work!)
So I was going to write this post on our actual anniversary, which is tomorrow, but I decided that I should write it while I have time – and by some miraculous turn of events, everyone is sleeping, even Harley! Hooray for quiet mornings! I feel like I could do anything! Is this what people who don’t have kids feel like in the am?
So anyways, tomorrow Matt and I will be celebrating our two year wedding anniversary. In some ways two years seems like a long time, and I can’t believe its been two years since our beautiful wedding. I feel like it was just yesterday that my cousin and I were going a little crazy planning our weddings, which were two weeks apart from each other. We had so much fun!
In other ways, I look at our lives and I can’t believe that it has only been two years! I mean it was ONLY two years ago that we living in my dad’s house, with only 1 child! It was ONLY 2 years ago that Matt was laid of from work just two months after I quit my job to stay home with Gabbi and we were struggling to stay afloat on just our savings from our wedding alone! It was ONLY 2 years ago that we found out we were having Autumn and we were totally thrilled but in shock of the idea of having 2 children, and totally stressed out about what we were going to do about our finances if Matt didn’t find a great job before she was born.
The first two years of our marriage have seemingly survived solely on prayer alone, and I think that it has become such a huge part of our testimony of what God has been doing in our lives. When we decided to have a six month engagement, I think we were a little naïve to the hurdles we would be overcoming during our first few years of marriage. Our courtship was a whirlwind of being in love and stepping out in faith that God would provide all that we needed. We didn’t plan for much, but we knew that getting married was what God had in mind for us. I will give you the shortened version of the last two years here:
When we left our wedding, we were the happiest people in the world, ready to begin our new lives as husband and wife. We went on a short honeymoon to Lake Placid, which was an absolutely beautiful town that really fit with our love of being outdoors in the fall. We spent four days walking around the lake, going horseback riding through the woods, eating in little restaurants and staying in our suite with the fireplace at night. It was perfect!
Matt was thrilled to see the where they had the winter Olympics…
After our honeymoon, the next few months were a whirlwind. Matt was laid off from his job the week before Christmas. Thankfully we still had the money from our wedding in savings, and we were still living in my dad’s house, so our expenses were minimal, but it was still a tough few months. Matt still had three months left of his driving school, which he needed to complete before he could get a better job. We prayed about it and decided that he should switch to full time school, to shorten it by a few weeks, and we would try our best to survive through that. We did, and Matt took the first job he was offered out of school, which was horrible, but a job at least. We really felt like the Lord was telling us that he would have a job that could support all of us before the baby was born, but as it was getting closer, I have to admit, my faith started to waver a bit. We began looking into over the road jobs, which would leave me home alone with the kids all week, and I was a wreck. When I pictured being married, being alone was the last thing I pictured, and I was starting to get really anxious. Then one day, Matt drove to a company he never heard of before, and walked in and asked for a job. It worked! God provided him with a local job, with better pay than we ever imagined! The hours were not (and still are not) the greatest, but he was home and could provide financially for our family. We were so happy! And the job came just one month before Autumn was born, just as we had felt the Lord had promised a few months earlier.
Then Autumn came…and she was so beautiful and we were so absolutely in love with her! Gabbi loved her little sister to pieces! The stress of finances was starting to ease as we got back on our feet, and we had this new little baby to snuggle. That summer was one of the best I have ever experienced. I couldn’t believe everything that God was providing for us!
By our first anniversary, Matt had a great job, we were starting to rebuild our savings and we had this beautiful little baby! Two weeks after our anniversary we found out we were expecting AGAIN!!
Matt was We were in shock for a few days, but then we were excited again! However, with Alex back home from London and the fact that we would now have three children, our living situation was a little crowded. Though I loved living at my dads, it was time to get our own house. Friends of friends were selling their townhouse in Hamlin so we jumped at the idea of buying it. We celebrated Autumn’s first Christmas still living at my dad’s, but by New Year’s Eve we were painting our new home, and we were moved in one week later!!
( I can’t believe I didn’t take pictures of the house when we were painting it! In fact, I have almost no pictures of our house at all! I will have to to do a house post soon, so you guys can visual what I am talking about sometimes…)
They say sickness can bring out the worst in people, well we spent the first two months in our new house sicker than ever. I mean we literally had three viruses go through our house and we were all miserable! Can you believe that Matt and I had NEVER had an argument up until this point in our relationship? Its true! We had our first fight when we were both sick, and it was awful. Plus I think it sort of opened Pandora’s box, because since then we seem to feel free to bicker all the time! Haha! After a lot of prayer, and a lot of resting and disinfecting, we were all back to our normal selves by the end of February. I will say though, that whenever one of us gets sick now, I am so worried about it lasting forever again!
We spent the next few months settling into our new home and waiting for the arrival of Scarlet and attempting to train our other ridiculous addition, Harley, who is really like having a fourth child:
We became completely outnumbered when Scarlet arrived, and it has taken us awhile to get back to feeling like we are in control of our household. Autumn started running around and has turned into a full blown toddler, and Gabbi started school! I can’t believe that we are where we are right now. Our lives have changed in more ways that I could have ever imagined over the last two years! I mean, a new job, two babies, a house and a dog. If you had asked me on our wedding day where I thought we would be on our 2nd anniversary, I don’t think that I would have said here, but thanks to the blessings of the Lord, we have come so far since that day, and I couldn’t be more grateful.
As a couple and a team, we are stronger than ever. My husband is my best friend, and I couldn’t imagine building this crazy life with anyone else. He knows me more completely than anyone else, yet we are still learning new things about each other all of the time. In the past few months, we have grown closer to the Lord together and that has just been truly a blessing. We are still navigating our roles as husband and wife, and when we are not careful we step on each other’s toes a bit. The second year has definitely brought about more bickering than the first, but it has also brought about more communication, allowing us to become better spouses to each other everyday. In most ways, I think that the second year of marriage is harder than the first, but harder isn’t a bad thing, because with hard work comes great rewards. I think that above anything else this year, that is something that we have come away learning. Marriage is hard work. Marriage is not a feeling, it is a choice. When you are married, you make a renewed commitment to your spouse each and everyday, to love them unconditionally, pray for them daily, take care of them and to live life with them. I am so grateful for this man, who works hard to provide financially, who loves his children unconditionally, who tries his best everyday to make sure that I am happy and who looks to the Lord for wisdom and guidance.
What does this year hold for us? With the craziness of the last two years, I hope it holds a few less surprises, a lot less moving and a little bit more quiet. What ever it holds, I am more excited than ever to discover it with this man who is committed to walking through life with me!